Traditional guy-girls weddings have had hundreds if not thousands of years to define customs, roles and work out the details of the ceremony. But with gay weddings there is a number of questions which aren’t really regulated by customs and tradition, like who’s paying for what and who’s giving away the groom? And remember guys, your next friend from yec.com might become your boyfriend, and that road leads to the altar…
Who pays for what?
It’s easy when you have bride and groom – but with two grooms, things are a bit more complicated. Ask yourselves: how much are your parents, siblings or even cousins willing to pay? Are they going to open the wallets or you have to do everything yourself? Don’t burden yourself with tradition, but with practical, prudent financial approach.
Changing the last name?
Since many brides don’t want to change their last name, or simply add husband’s last name to their own (with a – hyphen), there’s no reason to be more catholic than the pope and change your last name completely.
Who gives away the groom?
You can arrange the wedding venue so that the altar is in the middle, and two aisles meet at the center – that way both of you can be “given away”. Alternatively, you can wait by the altar if your hubbie’s parent wants to give him away; or you can both walk down the aisle. Just go easy on the veil!